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A few days ago, I was talking with daughter about choosing a career. I explained to her that I feel fortunate to enjoy what I do for a living. But that doesn’t mean I have liked every job I have held.
Let’s face it, many American workers are in the right profession, just the wrong job. Or they are in jobs they used to be enthused about, but just aren’t that into it anymore. When most of us spend more time at work than at home, it really makes a difference when we like what we’re doing, rather than dread going to work.
“What do you do if you’re in a job that you’re not happy in?” my daughter asked me.
“That depends,” I replied.
I went on to explain to her that there are ways to find more satisfaction from your job – whether or not it’s your dream job. I outlined some ideas:
“If you try to like your job again and just can’t make it work, then it’s time to move on,” I explained to my daughter. “But when you do move on, know what aspect of the job you enjoy so you make the smartest move possible.”
And then, I told my daughter something I might not have said a decade ago. I told her that workers today are leaving jobs, even leaving professions, all the time and while it often works out well for them, I cautioned her about jumping too fast. I suggested taking a different approach with an existing job first. “It’s really worth a try to shift your job description into something that’s more enjoyable.”
At one point, I was burned out on the beat I was assigned. I asked my editor to change my beat from covering one industry to writing about work life balance. It was the best move I have ever made and I think it shows it is possible to figure out how to like your existing job more rather than changing jobs.
My daughter nodded and I think she heard me, or at least I hope she did.
I am sure there are other examples out there like mine. If you have shifted your job description and made an existing job more enjoyable, please share your experience. I believe it’s doable but would love to hear from others!
One evening at the office, I had packed my laptop, slung my purse over my shoulder and stood up from my chair to head home. At that moment, a co-worker sauntered over to my desk asking for help on a project. I noticed earlier in the day, she had been chatting away with another co-worker and had wasted about an hour shooting the breeze. Now, she was stuck staying late at the office and if I helped her, I would be, too.
Most of us find it is hard to leave work on time. A quick peek at email before heading out the door can turn into a half-hour delay. And then there are those last minute requests that push us into overtime. Sometimes, it’s our inability to prioritize that causes us to stay late at the office finishing something we could have done earlier.
Whatever the reason you’re leaving late, it’s possible to do a better job getting out of work on time. Here’s how to make it happen:
Ramp up communication. I often have scrambled out the door way past the time I was supposed to stop working. One year, I resolved to leave by 6 p.m., which required starting my day promptly. I talked to my manager about my plan. By doing so, rather than just trying to bolt when no one was looking, I got his buy in. He understood my goals and changed his habits of making late afternoon requests. Managers, customers and co-workers become less likely to drop to-dos on your lap toward the end of the day when you establish a pattern of leaving on time and communicate your schedule.
Understand the consequences. Many times, I have spent double the amount I should on something because I started it when I was tired. Research shows working longer hours doesn’t contribute to higher productivity. In studying a variety of research, the Harvard Business Review found working more than 40 hours a week could make some workers less productive, put them at risk for making mistakes, and create the appearance of poor time-management skills.
Plan your day before arriving at work. I have learned the hard way it’s easy to get distracted by email, social media or talking to co-workers during the day. If you want to leave after eight hours, you need to be efficient within those hours. Rather than go with the flow of the workday, know what you need to get done when you walk in the door. When you plan your workday before you arrive, you should make a psychological commitment to that departure time. Some days may not go as planned. Many will.
Give yourself a 20-minute window for departure. If you wait until 6 p.m. to start packing up, you likely will get delayed by distractions. Once you’ve set your departure time, block out the 20 minutes prior to that time on your calendar to clean up any last daily details.
With some change in habit, you can actually get out the door on time. Of course, you have to believe it is possible — and resolve to make it happen.
If you resolved to leave work on time in 2017, how are things going? Please share your experiences/frustrations/successes below!
This morning I woke up in the pitch dark. I looked outside wanted to go back to bed. My clock said it was time to wake up but my body did not agree. Ugh… Daylight Savings Time just robbed us of an hour of precious, glorious sleep.
Today, I’m dragging myself around sleep deprived. The worst part is some experts say this groggy jet lacked feeling could last all week.
Yep, that’s right…we might be exhausted ALL WEEK.
The worst part is that many people already were exhausted. Losing an hour of sleep will mean an already tired workforce will be working on even less shut-eye, says Anna Kwok, vice president for Accountemps in Fort Lauderdale, an accounting staffing agency. A study from staffing firm Accountemps found 74% of professionals admitted to already being tired at work, with nearly one-third saying they’re short on sleep very often.
When we’re tired at work, we’re less focused, more grumpy and stand more of a chance of making stupid mistakes. In the Accountemps survey one really tired respondent admitted to deleting a project that took 1,000 hours to put together. Another admitted to falling asleep in front of the boss during a presentation. So embarrassing!
Some people are lucky enough to work at companies, like Ben & Jerry’s, Google and Zappos, that encourage napping on the job to promote psychological and professional benefits. I bet those nap rooms are going to be busy today!
The rest of us have to find some other way to fight that tired feeling. Here are some ideas:
(If you need them, there are more ideas at popsugar.com)
As you reach for another cup of coffee today, be patient with yourself. It may take a few days to get your body clock back on track. In the meantime, I’m going to go to bed earlier tonight and I’m going to try to follow Taylor Swift’s advice and “shake It off.”
One day at work, I was getting ready to leave for an author’s lunch at my daughter’s elementary school. As I gathered my things, my phone rang. It was a businessman who I had been trying to reach for days to interview for an article. He was headed out of town and willing to give me a few minutes of phone time before he boarded his flight. I sat back down and furiously took notes on my computer. By the time I finished the interview and arrived at my daughter’s classroom, she look as if she wa holding back tears. She already had read her story to the class.
I felt like crud. The guilt overwhelmed me and my meltdown lasted for days. I even considered quitting my job.
Now, 15 years later, my daughter has no memory of that day. Instead, she remembers the many times I was at her elementary class parties, awards ceremonies and field days.
Still, it was so relieving to hear from author Samantha Ettus that many other working mothers also experience that “terrible working mother moment.” Last week, Samantha Ettus spoke about her new book, The Pie Life:A Guilt-Free Recipe for Success and Satisfaction, at the Broward County Library Literary Lunch. In writing her book, Samantha encountered many working mothers who experience that moment when they miss an event in their child’s life or forget to pack their child something he or she needs for school and the mom melts down, consumed by guilt. As Samantha pointed out, the crazy part is that years later, most children don’t even remember the incident that caused us guilt and feelings of inadequacy.
Yes, guilt drives poor decisions. It drives heat of the moment decisions, and those actions often create problems for us in the long run.
Ettus speaks from experience as a mother of three. She has learned what I have discovered from balancing work, family, friends and heath and hobbies — to survive with your sanity, you must drop the quest for perfection because it’s an impossible goal.
So then, how do working mothers survive those moments when they feel like a “bad mother” or “bad employee” or when they see another woman soaring and wonder how she has such a put-together life?
Here are five survival tactics:
*Know that everyone has messy moments. “Empathize with yourself until the messy moment passes, at which point you will have the perspective to reflect on it rationally,” Samantha says.
*Make life decisions rationally. Base decisions on goals, values, desires rather than reactions or emotions.
*Define your non negotiables. (Some people make rules such as No work on Sunday. Other say Friday night dinners are untouchable) Once you know your non negotiables, you can set boundaries to protect them, Samantha says.
*Never apologize for working. “You are a role model to your kids. Why would you apologize for that,” Samantha says.
*Talk to another working mother. No one understands the struggle to do it all like another working mother. When your are at a low, the support of a friend who gets it can bring you back up. “Having a healthy slice of friends is essential for your health and happiness,” Samantha says.
Know that every working mother has that moment when she wonders how she can go on, when we feel we have let our child down. We want to tell our children to remember a wonderful moment instead. (Remember this, not that). But what many mothers don’t realize is that we don’t need to give those instructions. When we do our best to show our children love, holding on to those wonderful memories just happens. Now, that is some incentive to lose the guilt and live The Pie Life.
Almost weekly, I read about a company that has been one of the best places to work by a magazine or an organization. Some of them have amazing perks and I find myself saying, “Wow, I’d love to work there!” It has made me think about what perks I find most appealing.
Some companies offer onsite day care, making life easier for working parents. Others offer onsite gyms, making it easy to fit exercise into the work day. Then there are those companies that offer massages, merchandise discounts, and unlimited vacation.
As a working mother, I most value a flexible schedule. When I need to come in a little later to attend a parent teacher conference or leave early to take my child trick or treating, having a manager that will allow me some flexibility in my work hours makes all the difference in balancing work and family. To me, that’s the best perk.
My friend who just had a baby values paid parental leave. She is thrilled that her employer not only made her feel comfortable about taking three months off, but also paid her for most of it. She says that’s the perk that will keep her loyal.
Clearly, the perks we care about depend on our individual circumstances. But there are some that everyone can appreciate. One company I read about offers on-site employee concierge to handle all of life’s chores. Concierges send packages and flowers, pick up groceries, shop around for the best deals on car insurance, take your car in for service including oil changes, and even stand in line for concert tickets. Now that’s a perk that can help all of us better balance our lives!
While it’s nice to be spoiled by our employers, smart companies use perks to drive engagement. They want us to be happy coming to work and give our jobs our full effort. Sure, salary is a big factor in our job satisfaction, but the right perks can keep us from leaving, or lure us to another employer.
So, it may be time to think about what perks matter most to you. What’s your favorite perk where you work? What perk would be so enticing that you would change jobs to get it?
It’s 10 p.m. at night and I’m watching The Bachelorette. It’s a silly show but I love it. During commercials, I’m checking work email, clearing out the junk and responding to a few inquiries I didn’t get to during the day.
If you’re like me, you feel like you’re working A LOT. Yet according to the 2016American Time Use Survey, full time workers only put in about 40 hours a week, which is only five minutes more a week than a decade ago.
So, we’re not actually working as much as we think we are…or something else is going on.
In this hyper-connected age, working hours might still be 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., but the hours to do work can stretch from midnight to midnight, with emails zipping through the ether at the convenience of the sender, but not necessarily the recipient, as noted by Nick Coltrain of the Coloradoan.
I tend to interval work, which means I switch from task to task at home and the office, taking care of personal responsibilities and work responsibilities as needed. If your workday is anything like mine, you might sit down in front of your computer screen to start a project and become distracted by a new email. Then, you might work for an hour, and take a quick break to check Facebook.
The switching between personal and business tasks at the workplace has become so habitual that some researchers believe Americans spend as much as two hours of an eight-hour workday doing non-work tasks, whether or not we realize it. Of course, no one can work 8 hours straight without going crazy. We all need breaks.
I think what makes me feel like I’m working so much is that even when I am at home and not actually working, I still feel the tug of work on my brain. It’s that “always on” feeling that researchers say creates chronic stress and emotional exhaustion and makes us feel like we’re working more all the time.
In our desire for work/life balance, it’s just as difficult to know how much time we spend on leisure activities as work tasks, in part because of the increase in smartphone use. The American Time Use Survey shows Americans spend about five hours a day doing leisure activity, with television watching accounting for more than half of that time. However, many people are like me and watch television with their mobile devices in hand, sporadically checking work email.
When employers ask workers to manually track their work time, productivity improves, according to Fred Krieger, CEO of Scoro, a San Francisco productivity/project management software firm. If you really tracked the hours you worked for a week, how much do you think it would add up to? Do you consider multi-tasking — watching television and checking email to be work or leisure time? It’s kind of tricky, isn’t it? But if we can improve our productivity by tracking our time, it might be worth doing.
What do you think your time diary would reveal about how much you work?
Vacation is crucial to work life balance. Yet, every time my family and I board a plane to return from vacation, I get a knot in my stomach. I love the restorative part of vacation, waking up to know I have no responsibilities and my only task is to figure out what enjoyable activity I will do each day. But vacation usually goes fast and then it’s time to return to reality.
I am fortunate to return to a career I enjoy. Many people hate their jobs, their bosses, their overall predicaments. I don’t. Yet, I dread going from the high of a vacation to the reality of a routine. I dread the post vacation blues.
So lately, I’ve been reading up on how to avoid post vacation blues, or even just end-of-summer blues. I have figured out a few things to do different this summer. Here is my plan and suggestions:
1. Know the benefit of a break. Whether you are job hunting, thinking of leaving your job or overwhelmed by your job, you need a break. Tell yourself it’s okay to take a vacation and it’s okay not to think about real life responsibilities for a short period of time. Repeat after me: It’s okay to chill out!
2. Make a game plan for the return. Spend some time coming up with a list of things that you can do after you return that will challenge you intellectually or physically. Those people who are constantly challenging themselves rarely appear to be depressed or negative, according to Andrew Griffiths and his blog on Inc. I signed up for an online writing webinar a few days after my return from vacation this year. It gives me a learning opportunity to look forward to that I can fit into my workday.
3. Do more of the things you enjoy. If it’s spending time with your family you enjoy, figure out how to do more of it. If it’s exercising you enjoy, get up early and go bike riding twice a week. If you enjoy working, that’s a good thing, too. What aspects of your job do you like most and how can you do more of those things? Griffiths say some people have a hobby they enjoy like fishing or gardening but the last time they did it was 10 years ago. The weeks following your vacation are the time to get back into something you enjoy doing. For me, I love reading. I just created a library of books on my iPad waiting to be read on a lounge chair on the beach over the upcoming weekends.
4. Ask someone “how can I help”? Commit to helping someone else either in your workplace, your business network, your community, your children’s school. If you want to feel uplifted, there is no better way.
5. Get in the right frame of mind. Sometimes we take ourselves far too seriously and focus on the piece of our lives that we find dull or difficult or exhausting.When you come back from vacation rested and happy, you can use that as motivation to re-examine your work life balance and your outlook. What are the things that made you happy on vacation — sleeping in, touring museums, taking hikes, eating at new restaurants? All those things can be done wherever you live. You just have to make the effort to do them.
6. Change up your routine. During your first week back from vacation, take a new route to work, sit in a different chair at the dinner table or eat lunch with a different crowd. Small changes often are enough to renew our zest for life.
Vacations are fun because they offer a break from the tedium and familiarity of life, but if you’re miserable being at work or at home, you may want to consider making big changes to feel happier — or just start planning your next vacation!
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So where to begin? How do you motivate yourself and squeeze fitness into your busy life?
Fit it in your work day. Almost every day, Sergio Perez walks to the supermarket from his Miami office to grab lunch, trekking about a mile each way. While the heat can be intense in summer months, Perez, who works 50 to 60 hours a week in financial services, says the routine is the easiest way to squeeze fitness into his work life balance.
Do something you enjoy. Do you like bike riding? How about swimming? Find something you like to do and you will find yourself more motivated. It doesn't need to be grueling. “It’s not about who works out the hardest or longest. It’s just about do something, most days of the week,” says Chira Cassel, co-founder and director of The Sacred Space Miami, a wellness center in Wynwood.
Be consistent. Consistency is key to reaching health and fitness goals. Countless studies show that having someone or something keep you accountable for completing a workout will increase your adherence, and your results. Even during summer, life or work easily can get in the way of our quest for the perfect beach body. Using a wearable fitness tracker like a Fitbit, a fitness app or personal trainer, or even meeting a buddy to exercise can increase your chance of sticking to a fitness plan. It’s really about whatever motivates you and keeps you consistent.
Make it social. I love meeting my friends at exercise class. It motivates me to first show up and then to give it my best. You can combine fitness with family time, too. Talk a walk or a swim with your kids at night. Another idea is to use summer to make your get-togethers active, says Chira Cassel of The Sacred Space Miami. Instead of a business lunch, have a walking or workout meeting. Instead of joining a friend dinner, take a yoga class together in the park: “It’s a nice change of pace to get people out of their comfort zone, and less sitting is better for the body.”
Do it in your workplace or with work buddies. Some workplaces make exercise convenient and a bonding activity, particularly during summer when the work pace slows. At Kip Hunter Marketing in Fort Lauderdale, the account executives engage in friendly exercise competition using Fitbits and compare their steps weekly. At MBAF, an accounting firm, employees in the Coral Gables office go from their desks to bootcamp in the conference room on Monday nights. Attendance is up in summer. “We all encourage each other to go. It’s fun and easy,” says MBAF Marketing Director Wolfgang Pinther.
As a beer lover, my attention was immediately drawn to the recent headline in The Miami Herald:
I continued on to read the article:
A well-known brewer in Miami’s craft beer scene was killed in a car crash over the weekend.
Piero Rodriguez, one of MIA Beer Company’s founding brewers, was killed in an accident early Sunday, owner Eddie Leon confirmed. He was 34.
“We are completely devastated,” Leon said.
Clearly, the ironic part is that Piero was doing a job he loved – he was just doing it too much.
His friends and peers told The Miami Herald It was common to find him at the brewery doing the laborious, scrubbing tanks with punk rock blaring in the background while his son tagged along.
He was living the life he always wanted, his brother Ruy said, albeit cut far too short.
“People should be more positive,” Ruy said, “and pursue their dreams like he did.”
And there, right there, lies the fine line. While it is admirable to pursue your dream and do a job you love, everyone needs balance. Death by overwork is real and it can take your life in different ways. There are health reasons why work life balance is important and repercussions for thinking you can work a little longer or harder before taking time off. Over the years, I've written about people who have dropped dead of exhaustion right at their desks.
According to the Herald, the last thing Piero Rodriguez said as he left work late Saturday night was how much he was looking forward to spending Father’s Day with his young son.
He would never make it home.